Welcome to Life Reclaimed: Breakup to Breakthrough
Gain clarity and insight to help you move on successfully
WHO AM I?
Now, I regularly work with others who have been in the same situation. I get it, from a personal and professional perspective. I have years of training in working with people who have experienced trauma, relationship issues, including breakups, and much, much more.
In working on myself I realized where I went wrong, in my marriage, and other relationships after that. I learned how to speak my truth. I set clear boundaries for what I wanted in life and I didn’t compromise on that. And that is when everything started to work out for me, and I know it can for you too.
Who is it for?
- If you are a man over 30 and you are struggling due to the effects of a divorce or long-term relationship breakup then this program is for you.
- The goal of the program is to help you to connect back to your friends and family, have a relationship with your kids, and most importantly have a relationship with yourself.
- It doesn’t matter what your sexual orientation is, as this course is for anyone identifying as male.
- Each module also includes a section for Father’s or Step-Fathers. If you don’t have children you can just skip that bit.
Who is it NOT for?
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If you are not willing to be open minded then this is not for you.
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If you want to stay stuck in the blame game then this program won’t work for you.
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Divorce often leads to bad mouthing about the ex. This just keeps you trapped in anger. If you want to be validated in that then this is definitely not for you.
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There is no specific legal or financial advice given during the program.
Module one
Your Emotions are your Barometer
Outcome
- Be able to clarify how you are feeling
- Understand why emotions should not be ignored
- Get some tools to deal with difficult times.
Description
When you understand the link between how your body physically feels and your emotions you can more readily calm yourself, and be understood by others a lot faster.
We will also look at the basic needs, like understanding depression and anxiety, as well as learn everyday little things you can do to help get “unstuck”.
Module two
Surrounding Influences, Motivation, and Your Behaviour
Outcome
- Surround yourself with people who are aligned with you and your future.
- Identify any problem behaviours that are holding you back and look at your motivation for your choices.
- Enjoy connecting back to what you see as creativity and fun.
Description
Identify how your behaviours may be preventing you from having the life you want.
In this module we will look at how you can connect back to family and friends.
We will also look at healthy behaviours and having real fun (things that make you laugh and are not detrimental to your health). In tough times it can be easy to forget that fun and creativity can really make a huge difference to how you cope.
Module three
Planning Ahead
Outcome
- Set IMSMART goals in relation to yourself and what you want. Not what someone else wants for you, not your parents, family, friends, children or ex.
Description
Financial stress at this time can also be very high. Learn why it is important to focus on what you can control so that you can rebuild your life financially.
You will set some very clear goals that inspire you and give you hope for your own future. The happier you are with your life the happier, and more inspired other people around you will be!
Module four
Turn Your Anger Around
Outcome
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Understand why anger is hurting YOU more than anyone else.
- Knowledge is power.” Empower yourself to make wiser choices
- Learn a powerful technique to help with anger and other unwanted emotions
Description
Understanding is the key to loosening the grip of anger and resentment; to work towards acceptance or even better forgiveness. It is not expected this will happen immediately, but what if some understanding helped to ease the burden you are carrying?
Module five
What IS Important to me?
Outcome
- Knowing what you value in yourself and others.
- Live your life in accordance to your values.
- Identify other areas of life that you may need to work on.
Description
Often, in relationship we can lose our sense of self. We give away so much of who we are to please our partner. However, your partner fell in love with the person you were, not the person you became.
In this module you can explore your own personal values and integrate this with the six areas of life.
You will work through what this means and why knowing your own values can be like a roadmap to success.
Module six
Setting Boundaries and Putting Yourself First
Outcome
- Respecting yourself and others.
- What I want for myself and my life.
- It’s ok to put my needs first assertively.
Description
When you begin to respect your personal boundaries, you will find other’s stop taking advantage of you, they begin to respect you as you begin to respect yourself.
Putting yourself first does not mean being selfish, it means looking after your own personal needs and not expecting someone else to do it for you. Self-care is saying “no” when you need to in a respectful way.
Module seven
Who Am I Now?
Outcome
- Rediscover Who You Are NOW
- Acknowledge that life is different and that has to be ok
Description
It is time for a massive mindset shift so that you can overcome the loss of friends, family, possessions and your partner. Even without everything that you knew and loved before, you are still worthy of starting over.
Own your masculinity, your vulnerability, your feelings. Accept yourself, the good the bad and the things you need to work on!
Module eight
How Did I get here?
Outcome
- A deeper understanding of past patterning that has controlled you on an unconscious level.
- Examine your limiting beliefs around all aspects of life, particularly relationship.
Description
Relationships are all about learnings and growth, whether they be intimate relationships, relationships with your children, friendships or business relationships.
You will identify your negative beliefs systems around relationship. Where did these belief systems come from and how are they impacting you today?
Here you will explore where you might have gone wrong and reflect on what you can do differently in the future.
Module nine
Looking for Love Again
Outcome
- Discover if you are ‘dateable’.
- Get clear about the type of partner you want and how to attract them.
Description
But are you the kind of guy that women, or men, want to date? Or are you in the category of ‘player’, ‘too wounded’, ‘too angry’, or simply “not ready”?
You now know what you DON’T want, experience has taught you that! But what do you WANT? This module is designed to give you some insight into if you are actually ready to date, and if so, what it is you want in a partner.
If you know you are not ready to date again, don’t despair. This is also very helpful to get you prepared and take away some of the fear around dating, it may even get you excited again.