Finding Your Path to a Brighter Future
Divorce is a significant life change, and navigating this journey, you may be wondering how to rebuild your life after divorce. While I’m not a financial advisor or legal representative, I can provide some general guidance on how to rebuild your life, find your purpose, and move forward with confidence.
Embrace Self-Discovery:
The post-divorce period can be an opportunity for self-discovery. Take the time to reconnect with your interests, passions, and goals. What have you always wanted to do? Now is the time to explore new hobbies, interests, or career paths.
Focus on Your Well-being:
Prioritize your physical and mental health. Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and stress management techniques can help you feel better physically and emotionally. There is an abundance on information about this on the internet. Things like breathing exercises, and guided meditation can make a huge difference, taking you out of the stress response and into a calmer state.
If this hasn’t worked for you, consider seeking therapy or counseling to process your emotions.
Financial Planning:
While I’m not a financial advisor, it’s essential to assess your financial situation post-divorce.
Create a budget, plan for your financial future, and consider consulting a financial professional if needed.
Take the time to go through everything you had in a joint account, all those subscriptions, do you still need them (did you ever need them?). This is a good time to take control of finances and not let your finances take control of you.
If you need more on this download the free ebook “Breakup to Breakthrough” which features top 5 tips on dealing with finances after divorce, from Genene Wilson, Financial advisor.
Set Goals:
Define your short-term and long-term goals.
Often people go through life living day to day. In doing this you are not working towards anything, other than your weekly pay check. People who are focused on what they want to achieve are far more likely to achieve it. By having focus on what you want you are telling your unconscious mind that you are worth it and that you can have it.
So what do you want to achieve in your personal and professional life?
Setting clear goals can provide direction and motivation. Make sure you are as specific as you can be. Ensure the goals are measurable and attainable, you don’t want to set yourself up for failure!
Don’t just leave these goals floating around in your head. Actually write them down, break them down into smaller chunks and put a date to it.
By doing this you are telling yourself that this is really what you want, and you are making it more achievable.
If you leave your goals in your head chances are that is where they will stay!
If you are struggling to set some goals reach out for a free 30 minute chat where I can help you get started. Details below.
Have Fun
Don’t hesitate to reach out to friends, family, or even singles groups in your local area. Surrounding yourself with a supportive network can make a significant difference during this transition.
If you are stuck feeling sorry for yourself it will take you longer to feel ‘normal’ again. Get out there and create situations where you might actually enjoy yourself! This, by the way, is not an invitation to start dating again before you are ready! I would never advocate that! This is about making friends and being with the friends that you already have.
Reconnect with Your Children:
Maintain a strong connection with your children. Be present in their lives, attend their activities, and create lasting memories together. Make sure when you are with them you are WITH them. Phones down, distractions away, actually play with them, go to parks, ride bikes, hikes, do things that make you all feel good!
Rebuilding your life after divorce is a journey that requires time and patience. While these are general guidelines, your path to a brighter future will be uniquely yours.
Let’s Connect
If you’d like personalized guidance or support during this process, please feel free to schedule a free 30-minute consultation with me. I’m here to assist you in finding your path to a fulfilling life after divorce.
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Leanne Kanzler
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